Survivor working to assist other survivors..paying it forward...

[Serene Wright]

I am so thrilled to see this group!!! I am a survivor of assault and domestic violence. I know beyond knowing that these experiences were given to me for a reason and I am turning them into gifts. I am working on numerous sites to auction my art photos and collection of imports (purchased from women in an effort to help feed the children and empower women around the world), creating an awareness of the need for peace,compassion,and helping hands to those in need. I am working on photographing all of the items I have purchased and created so that I can display them for sale. I am currently donating 20% of all proceeds to www.rapehelp.org, a local Las Vegas non-profit created by another survivor. We are currently working together on myspace (myspace.com/mamaserene) as well as Facebook. I am open and eager for any feedback as to how I can make this a successful adventure,with that success I will be able to reinvest profits with more imports to keep this adventure rolling...I pray the Butterfly Effect will be such that lives will be saved,wounds will be healed...and awareness of this world-wide problem will be impacted in a very positive manner. Please do not hesitate to let me know what you think of this project....especially if you have ideas or outlets that will facilitate the success of this endeavor.
With gratitude and sincerity
Love and LIGHT
Serene

[Serene Wright]

I see so many who remain "stuck" in the role of victim. I choose to be a Peaceful Warrior Goddess...BEING the change I wish to see..I look at the abuse I survived as a blessing of sorts.
I have been in some very dark places..and the pain I lived with helped me to see the value of living,of joy....birthing my daughter put me on an intense path of self discovery and healing. I broke the chains of violence in MY home...last night I was on-line with an 18 yr YOUNG female who is a survivor if sexual assault by two stepfathers,she spoke of suicide (she's a cutter, and calls me Mommie)..messaging me to say goodbye....I just found out how easy it is to track someone from the computer who is far away...with no address,phone number....I got a call from her local police letting me know she was safe. Holding hearts and hands....feeding each other's minds,bodies, and souls....this is human-kind....thanks for the response
blessings be
Love and Light
Serene

[PlanetaryHuman]

Hi Serene!
What a beautiful thing you are doing! I was a victim of domestic violence and have also chosen to be the change I desire to see in the world around me. I know I went through what I did in order to help transform, not only myself, but others who are going through similar experiences. I have a level of understanding that I might not have had otherwise. You are doing a great service using the beauty of art to bring a level of consciousness to the world! I look forward to exploring more of what you are doing!

Blessings of love and peace!
Terrie

[Serene Wright]

Thank you for your reply..there are so many living in silent pain. I used to...and now I speak out,I speak up...and I am doing all I can to set a better example of what we all deserve..to be treated with dignity and respect. I would not be able to do this work if I had not experienced the abuse first hand. Only those who have "been there" can understand that these experiences are not something we can just "let go of"...the abusive events are a part of the tapestry of our lives...one would not remove a single thread from a beautiful carpet...we as survivors have a duty to stand tall..for the future generations, to give them a better example....it truly is in our hands to be the change we wish to see..
blessings and light to you..
Serene

[SpiritBear418]

Dear Serene,
It is good to hear that someone can turn things around and become strong. I am a survivior also but there are times when it all comes flooding back. The Dr's have told me I have a mild case of PTSD. It has been many years since my abusive relationship finally ended. How did you completely heal from yours?

[Serene Wright]

Thanks for sharing....I survived...and being strong is sometimes a daily choice I make..I made a pact with myself, to face the things I fear most..a big part of my healing..My mother died 4 yrs ago..her last request of me was for me to write my story. I come from a violent home..for her to ask me this thing..was huge in and of itself...I just started writing in Dec of last year. I had to stop for a while, the writing was bringing me back to some very dark places...difficult things to relive..especially since I went very public with a very private story..my writing is on my myspace page at myspace.com/mamaserene
I use my real name...and a bit of sterilizing in the telling...I write with some very specific thoughts..I truly forgive the ones who abused me...I will NEVER forget...I write with love and dignity...with the hope that in my telling others will read my story and change their own lives...or reach out to others in difficult or dangerous positions and be a support system..
As a survivor I don't know if there is any such thing as "complete healing"...there is a part of us that has been altered..the slate of our lives was changed..I take each day ...one step at a time..I am a single mom...with a beautiful daughter, I broke the chain of violence,abuse, and neglect...and my daughter has grown to be a beautiful talented confident deserving feminine leader...an amazing artist with a ginormous heart...so much of my healing has been through raising her...with dignity,tenderness, respect, and unconditional LOVE..be gentle with yourself..ptsd is expected and absolutely normal for those of us who were treated poorly by those who were supposed to love and protect us...there is nothing "wrong" with you..something wrong was done TO you....
peace and love...
Serene

[rosie ong]

So happy to hear of your beautiful journey and the wisdom you have gained. Truly from awfulness can come such light.
love and blessings

[Serene Wright]

All of life is a classroom...it is what we CHOOSE to do with the lessons that counts...I broke the chains...and live with forgiveness in my heart...and deep compassion...for the ones who caused me pain...they hurt themselves even more....

Love and Light...
Serene....

[Serene Wright]

Hi Robin...
All the survivors of domestic abuse need help....I have needed a sabbatical....life threw some stressors my way...I am preparing for a funeral tomorrow...a beloved 14 yr old ended his life last Tuesday...the pain of parental abuse and neglect weighed too heavily on him...he is now at peace....and I have spent the day preparing myself and a eulogy...I will soon begin the auctions of all the imports I have accumulated...almost all purchased from women in 3rd world countries in an effort to help them feed their children...my auctions will be on myspace.com/mamaserene
Directing people to the auctions would be wonderful assistance. I want to get these things sold so that I can re-invest and keep the circle of support alive..
let me know if you need any further information...I have had my page on private and will change it so that people who are not on myspace can access the auctions...
blessings and love to you.
xox
Serene

[HipGnosis]

this is really a beautiful thing you are doing. i myself had several step-fathers who were abusive to my mother and i. it took her years to finally come to the realization that she didn't have to live like that. it took ten years of being single for her to really break the cycle and find someone who treated her right. we both have lasting mental/emotional health problems from the damage that they caused and are still healing. i'm not sure if the healing process will ever end. i suppose i have forgiven the men, and my mother for letting me go through that as well. i truly believe often people are not aware that there ARE healthy, non-abusive relationships out there, and that they deserve dignity and respect and love. i think with my mother, after having an abusive childhood too, she just thought that's how men acted and it was normal. if all you see is sickness around you, how can you possibly understand what being healthy is? i know it took a lot of courage for her to deal with the terrible treatment she put up with for so many years, and she now is one of the strongest people i know. i thank the gods frequently for having been blessed with a mother that is truly kind and caring and compassionate, in spite of all she's been through.

[Serene Wright]

Thank you for the lovely reply...we who grew up with abuse can feel so alone and isolated...and I do believe there is a lifetime of healing...
I spent yesterday at a funeral....for a beloved 14 yr old boy,he would have been 15 on July 30...an apparent suicide, he was abused and abandoned by his parents...his grandparents are "family of choice" for me and cared for this young man, had custody of him for most of his short life...he had just returned from spending 2 yrs with his father..and in those two yrs his mother had no contact with him. It was difficult to read at the services yesterday...seeing his parents there...knowing the history....letting go of my own feelings about the pain this child endured...holding on to the thought that he is now in a peaceful and pain-free place. I have yet to have found a healthy supportive relationship with a man...it seems so few understand the long term ramifications of having been abused. I have blogged some of my story on my myspace page if you would care to read...myspace.com/mamaserene the blogs begin back in December of last year so you would need to go back to the beginning so to speak...I am doing some healing right now and want to get back to doing the auctions again...VERY soon...like within a week or so...I hope the word spreads...almost all the items I have accumulated come from women in 3rd world countries who are trying to feed their children..so many could be helped in this endeavor...so many....
thanks for sharing your story...
wishing you love and healing..
x0x
Serene

[HipGnosis]

that's a shame you still haven't found a healthy and supportive relationship. so many people aren't willing to make sacrifices and pay attention to their actions and words towards others, thereby continuing to keep that hurt going, just keeping it burning inside. you seem like a wonderful and strong (and beautiful) woman though, and i'm sure when the time is right FOR YOU, the right man will come along, if that's what you are looking for. in the meantime, just focus on yourself and your healing process. it's a long, uphill journey, but once you get there, things will be great for you. just keep positive and keep working on you. companionship comes and goes, remember, but you have to live with yourSELF forever.

[Serene Wright]

It seems that the men I have met and loved...had no understanding of what I had been through....my ex-husband always told me to "just get over it.." I wish it were that easy....I do my best to use the difficult experiences to help others...
Thank you for the kind words and encouragement...it means a lot! For now I am focusing on ME..climbing the hill, I know that with all I do I can look ME in the mirror and see my strength, I look at my beautiful daughter and know I did a good job with her...she has been such a gift in my life, helped me to remain strong and dedicated to giving her a better start than the one I had..and I (in a strange way) give thanks for the rough beginning..I wouldn't be the mom I am if it had not been for the pain from my past! My daughter has no footprints on her back,she knows what I went through, it warms my heart that on her myspace page I am listed as her most important HERO!!! I am the Change I wish to SEE...a picture of what she had done on her leg to honor me two Christmas's ago...I am so proud of her and the job I have done in raising her...

blessings and love..
xox
Serene